some of you may be thinking i suffer from low self esteem but im trying to look at the grim reality. No girls are interested in me and i have no female friends. I have no idea how to make friends. I work at a retail store and there's 4 girls to every guy its a big store but none of them have made an attempt to chat with me. Im ugly skinny and my face looks awkward from the sides i know this. Random people give me strange looks cause of this. but i can't help my appearance. And i know most girls wouldn't want a 56kg guy as there boyfriend. At best im probably a 2.5 out of 10. I work check outs and i get people acting rude towards me for no reason. Im always first to communicate with my work mates and start off and keep the convo alive most of the time. And im secretly hoping someone will ask about me instead of me asking them questions like how they are. how do u develop a friendship do you just talk to the same person even if she/he won't do the same. how does it escalate to going out after work and weekends? What i do know is that i lack female friends I've got none and I've never had a girlfriend all i see is guys getting in with girls all around me in parties/gathos/clubs/hanging out/snapchat/facebook and bringing them to there houses. Im 19 and everyone i know thinks im in my 20's like 25 or 23 should i still go for 17-18 year olds if i look a lot older than i am? one thing i know is most guys got with girls in highschool i didn't. its sad to think about it specially considering that through five years i spent less than an one hour talking to girls at highschool. i want this to change i know im ugly looking but what can i do change my situation ladies and gentlemen. Spending weekends doing nothing is boring and worse when you hear statuses about how good someone night was or what they done and its even worse when spend new years at home year after year.
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You are properly right; you know your situation way better than any of us.
The question is not if you should workout and get confidence, because that won’t help you very much when the rest is not up to standard of the girls you want.
I’ll say there are two effective way to go; 1. True acceptance of you situation and come to terms with the fact you will never find a girl, 2. Lower your requirements for a girl, until they are as low as it takes to get one.
Workout and getting more confidence will increase the bar you can set, but they won’t be young, intelligent, kind, super models loving you for just who you are.
Besides confidence is something you get based on success not failures, so you can’t just get confidence because girls likes it. Going to the gym and get muscles tones will be better than nothing, but you are not the type to try to sell yourself based on looks, so forget about getting into shape, will solve your problems because it won’t. Naturally you will be better of getting into shape for many other reasons, and it certainly won’t hurt you girls wise.
I have seen this so many times, guy/girl wanting what they can’t realistically get, wanting what is beyond their reach; they have seen too many Hollywood movies to realize reality.
You need to face reality, not getting another false hope.2