Okay so I have been single for about 2 years now and it's because as I've gotten older (I'm 23 years old) I've learned not to date just to have company because that either never works or actually makes you more miserable than you would be alone. Anyways so I've had the "high school relationship", several of the "boring and not going anywhere relationship" and of course "the one relationship that totally fucks you up". So after dating different types of people and experiencing different types of relationships I decided to take a step back and obviously take a break and then see what happens to my life. In the past two years I haven't really been looking, yeah sure I've had crushes and I've on dates but nothing serious and I think that I am at a point in my life where I am not hurt anymore, I'm not bitter anymore, and I don't think I'm scared either, I may be a little guarded but not to the point where I'm completely closed off. I'm open to the idea of dating now. I've taken plenty of time to myself to think and heal. But my problem honestly is that I'm just not attracted to anybody... or at least I should say a lot of the guys that try and talk to me. I have noticed that I’ve gotten extra picky when it comes to looks over the years. I wasn’t really like this in the past but I am now and I think it’s because in the past I have dated some guys who I was not physically attracted to and it was awful! Is it so wrong to say that I want to date a really hot guy? And that more than half of the guys that try and talk to me are just basic average joe’s?
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Frankly, I was quite surprised that you only want 'hot' guys, considering all the sensible stuff you wrote before that. Anyway, if that's your preference, then its not 'wrong'. Just ensure that you don't lead the average looking guys on.
Also, it would help if you aren't THAT dismissive about the so-called 'average joes'. If you don't want to date them due to their looks, its perfectly fine. But these average looking guys may still have something amazing about them, beyond the looks. Just saying, because its completely your choice.
I personally haven't dated for almost 4 years now (since my previous relationship ended). Not that I'm picky, but I have been focusing on other priorities of my life (such as education and career) and I don't suppose I will be ready to date any time in the near future because I seem to have gotten a bit too 'comfortable' being single.0
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