My boyfriend of 13 months and I, are soulmates, both of us agree. I was married for 20 years to someone I married in highschool while pregnant, ashamed and lost... we NEVER loved each other. My boyfriend was married twice, one child, to both very sexy petite tartlet party girls. We are local celebrities, who grace every high profile party, have hundreds of likes on every picture we post, and loved by all. Since meeting him, I have taken on the burden of helping raise his rotten teenage daughter, completely painting the inside, and outside of his home, redecorating, (his ex was a SLOBBB) and been a fulltime, 'wife and mom'. Words cannot express, how hard I have worked on his home and daughter. He has always stated, he never wanted to remarry, so I said the same... as who wants to marry someone who doesn't want to marry you? But, deep inside, it would be nice to have a commitment, and the fairytale I never had. His house is being listed for sale today, now that all the work is done, and he is buying his parents house on lake, a MAJOR upgrade, but in need of major work, how appropriate. I have my own home, that I have neglected greatly, as I stay with him a majority of the time. At a fancy Christmas party recently, where we looked SMOKIN! :) he was bombarded w/ the question from the Mayor, city manager, and dozens of friends..."When are you gonna put a ring on her hand... she's a CATCH?' After avoiding the question countless times, and after a few drinks... he finally responded..."Why buy the cow when you got the milk for free?" I doubled over and gasped for air as I was just sucker punched in the gut. When I stood, he was devastated how it came out, and how it sounded.. ESPECIALLY after all I have done. My friends even gasped. I held my tears the whole way home, while he apologized over and over... but, 3 days later, it was like he just said it. I KNOW he loves me... but, at that point, I felt like a dropped 100 floors in an elevator. How do I get over this?
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He was probably only joking, didn't understand the effect his macho joke would have on you.
IMHO the solution is better communication between you.
by the way, I'm happily married and we married only because her dad made such a nuisance of himself. After decades I can honestly say that if we hadn't married but just been living together our life would have been identical. Only our taxes and possible social entitlements would have been different.
Here in Belgium -until 1963- female teachers were required by RC School authorities to quit teaching when they married.0