I have things that I want and won't budge on, and then I have things that i'm willing to give up for the other person. Does anyone else think like this?
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Back before I met my husband, I had some ideas of certain things I desired in a man, but I understood that all people are different and that my opinion of someone could change over time or if I cared for them enough. I remember that all I really wanted was a man who looked nerdy and he had to love video games. Of course, as superficial as that sounds, I've always had a bias toward nerdy men because of more than just appearances. Most of nerdy men I've ever known were respectful, smart, loyal, hard-working, etc., and those personality traits definitely played (and continue to play) a part in why I find said men so attractive. Obviously, this is a bit biased and won't be true in 100% of cases either way, but it is human nature to be biased.
You're definitely not alone. I had a select few things I wouldn't budge on, and even then, I did end up relaxing some of these things because I fell in love. For example, when I met my husband, he smoked, and I hadn't ever thought I could date a smoker. Instead, I fell in love much too quickly to put much emphasis on that, and it turned out that he quit within our first month of dating out of respect for me, so it all worked out.
I think it's nice to have a somewhat "loose" idea of what you want in a person, and be open to changing those ideas depending on their importance to you. Either way, it really can't be helped that people think about and wonder about possible future partners, so you're bound to have some idea of what she or he could be like.0