so growing up I've been taught to value money a lot and to never spend anything on stuff I didn't need. my parents always scared me with the idea of financial problems, debt, loan sharks etc and since then I've always been extremely cautious about how i invest.
recently i've been dating this really nice guy and he's extremely rich but that was ok until a few incidents happened where he'd spend crazy amounts of money on me and i ended up getting really mad at him. I know I should be appreciative and happy that he's doing all these expensive things for me but I just feel uncomfortable and anxious when he showers me with jewellery and stuff i don't need.
when I tell him that he doesn't need to buy me stuff to make me happy he just waves it off and i know it's because to him money means very little when you have loads of it which makes me agitated. I know it sounds stupid to get angry over it because he's only being nice but i don't know how to stop feeling this way other than blatantly telling him to stop. i need advice please :/
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Your parents meant well, but they probably did not give you the proper financial advice.
I suspect you may be from a low-middle income family, as the behaviors your parents tried to teach you are inherent to low-risk takers who end up working average jobs with basic financial constraints. They taught you the importance of having good spending habits, but did they ever teach you how to grow the money that you earn?
Every person spends based on their available income. If you have little money, you probably scrape by every week for rent and food. If you make $100,000/year, you won't have this problem and will spend more on better housing, food and entertainment. What your boyfriend considers as minor spending may be significant in your eyes, but not his.
Rather than get mad at him, just let him know that you do not appreciate purchased gifts as much as you do personal, handmade gifts. My wife and I make over $150,000/year, and this Christmas, I bought her a present for the first time. I always made stuff for her by hand for birthdays, Christmas, etc, and she has done the same. They mean a lot more to me than a 70" LCD television or an expensive jacket.0