Here is me. Though this list will make me sound cocky, I am very modest but confident.
I am honest, kind hearted, giving, hard working, ambitious, I have no problem standing outside the crowed if that means being true to my self. I have goals and know who I am. I am also attractive. I focus on. internal beauty but my outer also adds to my whole package.
But here is how dating goes
I meet people, we hit it off well. I know I'm attractive, but don't like when guys feel the need to constantly hit on me. "Hey sexy" is an automatic no-go. So I feel like I do a decent job at weeding out people who are interested only in sex...
Once a guy puts in enough time and I trust he is going to stick around it can of course lead to sex. Well seems like. The moment it does, well all the sudden that is all I'm good for. Sometimes I'm lucky enough to continue receiving good Conversations but it is only a matter of time until i turn into a booty call. They usually drop off the. Face of earth or randomly get in a relationship with. Someone else.
So often I hear about how great I am, how happy i make someone, how I'm a perfect package, even once had a guy tell me he loved me (this was someone I knew for years) but all thoes guys, none of them ended up with me.
I've been in two relationships, both long term... the first left me for someone else and the other I found out cheated on me the whole time... I just don't get it.
This last fling I tried hard to keep. I made sure not to get obsessive, or possessive. I gave him space but also treated him like he was my king (not that he was above me, but I made many efforts to make him feel special). For once it was a healthy balance of sex and the. other good stuff... now I'm losing him to another lady as well! :/ like I know I'm a good person, but its just so hard to feel like I am good. Enough sometimes
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It get the impression that you are easily trusting, somewhat naive and are being suckered in by players or men who might be interested in you initially but then feel you aren't challenging enough and decide to use as a casual sex partner until someone else comes along.
Now what happened in your relationships weren't down to you, so I wouldn't blame yourself for the actions of those two guys.
If you are continuing to do the same things and they are yielding the same results then you need to evaluate what it is you are doing and how you can make the changes necessary to ensure a different outcome.
To me you don't sound challenging, you seem easily trusting, you're prepared to open your legs before entering a relationship and you seem to want to appease and please too much. None of that sounds remotely attractive to me.
I can speak for other men and we're all individuals and have our own views, but my advice to you is to sit down, have a long hard think about what you are doing that could be leading to the same results and then try and remedy it.0
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