A guy at my university is in my same major and so he's in plenty of classes with me. He's really creepy and always bothers me. He touches my back every time he talks to me, stands too close, puts his hand on the seat of my chair while sitting next to me, incessantly tries to make dinner plans with me despite my telling him that I have a boyfriend. How can I tell him to quit? It makes me very uncomfortable, but he does it in a passive aggressive way, that if I called him out on it, he'd probably be like "um, don't flatter yourself, I'm just trying to be friendly", when that's obviously not his intentions. So how can I get him to stop being creepy in as subtle of a way as he is hitting on me?
How do you deal with guys that hit on you passive aggressively?
What Guys Said 1
You could try to provoke him to be creepy... while at the same time your boyfriend arrives and you ignore the guy while kissing your boyfriend and leaving together without saying a word.
Than see what happens... hopefully he wakes up.
Or as an alternative to that, just tell him exactly what he can afford to do while "just being friendly" and if he goes over the edge, tell him in the middle of the public, with a sufficiently loud voice, that he should stop sticking to you like a flie.0
What Girls Said 3
Wow, I want to help you but I don't really know what to say cause just like you said if you confront him, he would most likely deny it. Perhaps try avoiding him, like go to class late after him, that way you won't sit next to him because he would already be sitting somewhere else. When he stands close tell him to move away a little because you want your personal space, that way he'll have to move, maybe even lie and say your claustrophobic and don't like it when he's too close. Just avoid him, what I like to do when I see someone I want to avoid I get my phone and pretend I'm having a conversation lmao (sad I know but it really works cause if your on the phone with someone, no one will really approach you, and he won't know that it's fake and your really not talking to anyone). If everything else fails, then please go and talk to staff that can help you because you shouldn't have to keep getting harassed by this guy, so please let someone know. Hope that helps.0
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