Well there's a guy i've been casually hooking up with. I met all his friends and I see him almost every week. But he talked about his ex a lot, and it annoyed me so I just took it like he isn't over her.
Last time we hung out alone he told me he likes me (he says this every time) and he said he wants to take me out to dinner sometime. I took that like he wants to be more than friends with benefits..
But I think I blew it, because he was at a party I went to with my friend and I was sooo drunk, that I barely payed attention to him the whole night, and I'm pretty sure I went around flirting with people in front of him. I feel bad.. and I texted him the next morning to apologize for being so drunk and he said its all good, and that I was crazy drunk.
I went home (a couple hours away) for winter break and he hasn't texted me all day. He knows i'm not in town but I'm worried I blew it. What do you think?
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Well this guy is still mulling over his past romantic experience. He mentions it to you because he can't get it out of his head. Maybe he is comparing you (and all girls) to this past romance on the rocks. Maybe he is suffering a loss of self-esteem due to rejection himself from this past experience and fears that you will reject him as well--if you think he may be making such a judgment from your behavior at the party.
He might, then, appear to be guarding his self-esteem by remaining aloof. If you think you want a closer friendship with him, it should be easy to rewarm him just by contacting him every 5 or 6 days for awhile maybe and offering light encouraging chat. Invite him for Starbucks, a movie, a meal, a trip to the museum. Ask his help with something he might know about. If this does not work, chalk it up to fait accompli. You own possible discomfort and feeling of rejection in this matter will dissipate in a matter of days.
At any rate, no matter how this current minidrama unfolds, you will by the "procreant urge of the world" and the Laws of Nature bump into another person equally to your liking. You seem to have a wide circle of acquaintances, so it is just a matter of time and exposure. There are other guys too, you know, so live your life well and live it now.1