I'll be honest I've tried to chase some pretty bad girls and I based my choice mostly on looks and the fact that they flirted with me first. Bad move and I'm 21 now and tired of coming up empty. I'm falling for my friend recentlyncause she appreciates me and is trust worthy. she's attractive but doesn't take my breathe away and we can tell each other anything and do. We hang out a lot and she opens up to me and more so than other people and I'm almost sure she likes me. Well the issue is I don't want to date her and start chasing more attractive women if I meet another girl that I really am attracted to.
Does dating a girl based on personality work out usually or does that fizzle out eventually?
What Girls Said 3
I would actually expect it the other way around.
Dating someone just based on their looks seem quite... dull after a while. If you don't have a connection, anything to talk about, no matter how good looking that person it, it gets boring.
And yes, I do know what I'm talking about. I once dated a guy who was really good looking, but we had nothing in common and it just didn't feel right, it felt boring, to be honest.
But maybe that's just me.
A personality can make someone (even more) beautiful :)2
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I think the look should be just the first impression. But shouldn't you really get to know the girl before you start dating them? My boyfriend said he thinks I'm cute (I think that's why he talked to me in the first place). But then we talked and became friends before we started dating.0
Attraction goes beyond looks. If you don't even find yourself attracted to her, I'd say just be her friend and nothing more.0
What Guys Said 3
Here are a few things to think about: Finding someone you are compatible with as you are with this girl is not easy. However, please remember if she likes you, she wants you to want her in every way, not be the fail safe. This does not mean you are going to find every single thing about her PERECT. I am not suggesting that. But i am suggesting that she is the one you wake up thinking about, and you think about her through the day, and you go to bed thinking about her. She is the one that you want to share things with - funny things, sad things, everyday things, etc. And even if another woman turns your head, you don't feel like you are missing out, when you turn your head back towards her.
I am not sure this helps, but hopefully these are things to think about...0
If you are afraid of cheating on her or simply leaving her because you will be more attracted to hotter girls, its simple dont date her.
If you dont think you will be able to resist the temptation of chasing a hotter girl, thats ok, but she dont need to suffer because of that, especially if she's 1 of your good friend.
Wisest decision would be for you to wait and get more mature when you will give more importance to personality than look, but if that never happen, just go with really hot girl and hope it will work hot out and that you will like her personality.
All in all, she just doesn't need to suffer because your not sure if you can prevent your self from chasing other girls. Wait until you know she will be the only 1 for you1
When you want this:
Does not work. :(0
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