I am not referring to the central science. I am referring to the romantic thing. I just don't get it. Explain it to me that I may learn how to make it with the ladies?
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Here's my highly personal perspective.
The manifestation of chemistry, is like being totally comfortable in another person's presence, like your whole nervous system is silent, like know one another already, like you don't have to contrive anything, fear being 'found out'; like it was destined, almost, to come together.
Through my experience with spiritual practices, which is more, re-forging the mind body connection (because we're mostly too head based, this is how society conditions us all, unknowingly), there are insights to be derived from other areas of the body, indeed, the body as an integrated unit. Once this comes on-line, or indeed, we uncondition ourselves, it manifests itself far more powerfully. For example, a loving warm warmth you get with certain people, or to be touched by another person sets of explosive waves of energy within your body. Or very occasionally, I get like a pulsating rhythm in my chest, and a deep sense of love and joy, with certain people. But this last one is very elusive. Spiritual practices in this context, I would define, as that one thing, that art, that allows you to centre yourself, and is something to positive to focus on through the drudgery of life. For me it's meditation, kung fu, the like, for others, it may be dancing, or composing music, or what have you.
The thing you refer to where the attraction may not be mutual may be 'egoism' (which is a horrible meaningless phrase, but I'm forced to describe by using words that have been corrupted). Egoism in this context, is the mind creating little fantasies as a means of *escape* from the things in life that are unpleasant. Bad experiences that keep repeating themselves because one hasn't turned in their direction, dissolved them, wholeheartedly. So the notion of finding a partner from a negative emotional space can be used as a means of escape, and indeed, perhaps nothing good can come of it.
As Murakami said:4
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