I realized the mistakes i was making with a girl i've been seeing. She was really nice, and definitely into me, but I pursued her too much and the attraction began to drop. First she asked to slow down, which i didn't do. Then she said there wasn't chemistry, which i know was the result of my chasing her. Then she friendzoned me. When she said "I just want to be friends" i neither accepted nor declined the friendship, because i didn't know what i was supposed to do. Instead i dropped her home, and proceeded to ignore her texts and stopped initiating with her. After two days she reached out to me with a "I don't want to lose your friendship, i really miss your friendship, please can we still be friends." Of which i neither declined nor accepted.
I saw her this morning for a Christmas picnic (was the only time i could see her), and we laugh, have fun, and generally have a good time. When she started playing with her hair and with the gift i gave her, I said "Come over here and give me a kiss before you wear the gift out." She laughed, and smiled, but didn't come over to kiss me. I left it, and after a bit of chit chat, I saw her playing with her hair again, and again i said, "come over and kiss me". She reacted by saying, but we are friends, and friends don't kiss, smiling as she did so. To which i responded, "you are right, friends don't kiss" and i proceeded to take her home.
I am continuing with not initiating and when she reaches out, i will make a date and try again. I'm still not sure what to do about the situation. It's a little too late to say to her, "sorry i'm not interested in being just friends, give me a call when you change your mind". So is there anyway of going about this the right way so that i can get the girl i desire?
I'm open to seeing other girls, but this girl and i have a lot in common, so would like to, over time, form something with her. Any advice from the guru's out there?
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Some of us non guru's have pretty good opinions also lol... i would say not to text saying this because she has friendzoned you for a reason you are coming on too strong and she isn't into this she is wanting the phases going out doing things see how she feels then the kiss then the nxt step becoming official, she is obv into you that is why she said friends dont kiss that is a cheeky flirt lol take it slow dont rush because you will chase her away just make sure that the time you spend together is fun and that your not always going on about getting with her2