i mean, i have never had a girlfriend or any of that. i dont even speak with girls but i do like them. but after all these years im just losing faith in stupid love and true love and all that shit. so does it exist?
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Yes, it does.
But it takes a hell of a lot more effort than this world is letting on.
1. You must be right for her. If you think in your natural state as you exist without effort into making you into a better man (Self effort) you are ready for a woman, think again. Depending on your childhood, it can take years of discipline and self examination (Seeking God doesn't hurt. God has helped me more than anything. I can't even take any credit for who I am today.) before you are remotely ready to give yourself to a woman. To put her first in everything. To be conscious of her heart as if it was more important than your own
2. Self discipline. Do not look up p*rn . Don't even masturbate. It twists your psyche into believing you already have a mate. Thus, afterwards, many men could walk by their ideal mate and not even bother to look twice- because their emotional needs were met, albeit only for a brief time. People want to say it's okay to masturbate- it is not. You become much more well rounded, much more mature when you discipline your body and stop. It also makes you ready for your mate when she comes a long. Sex is major for us men. Do not be tricking yourself into believing you already have a mate when you really don't. Because that's what masturbation does. Even masturbating after marriage is a bad idea in my opinion. Give all of yourself to your mate. Not just a part.
3. Have patience. I am thirty- five years old and alone. I ache so much to share my love with a woman it hurts, sometimes. But I have come to the realization that it is likely I am not ready for my mate yet. Here is a pro tip: Just because you desperately desire something does not mean you are even remotely ready to receive, or even appreciate it.
Do you have the patience to wait for the woman God has for you who will be the perfect completion to your mind, soul, and heart? Do you have what it takes to love and cherish her above you and your own needs and desires?0
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