Not necessarily sex, but some sort of sexual act. Is it a bad idea to have sex on the first date? When should you actually have sex?
- Yes, it is a turn offVote A
- Doesn't change anythingVote B
- It makes me like her moreVote C
- See answersVote D
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It is only other girls (for the most part) who will judge you for doing this. The guy who dumps you after sleeping with you on the first date, is the same guy who dumps you after sleeping with you on the third date or the eighth date. He's also the same guy who dumps you after going on a fifth date without sex. The only difference is that no sex takes place - for you either. You're just delaying the inevitable.
Would you rather have sex with a guy and never see him again, or just never see him again? That's the only difference if a guy just wants sex. If you can have sex without getting emotionally attached, then there is very little downside. A guy who is going to stick around, will stick around because he really likes you, not because he is waiting for you to put out. Honestly, sex just cuts through the bullshit.
Don't get me wrong, I am definitely not saying that all guys just want sex. There are plenty of guys (myself included) who go on dates because they are looking for love. But these guys will not leave because you put out. You're still the same person, we just know what you look like naked.2