I have known this guy for a couple of months and we've been talking as friends for a while now. Recently he asked me out but i have not answered him yet. I don't date but i do really like him and I'm finding it hard to decline as i'm afraid i'd lose him as a friend too. The reason i'm reluctant to go on a date with him is that I have never had a boyfriend and due to my beliefs I would not sleep with a guy before marriage. Do you think i should tell him this before i accept his request or should i just make an excuse and decline (assuming he'd not like this and think i'm weird)?
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never never never never, ''assume things''. there's nothing wrong with not premarital sex. But yeah, a lot of guys might consider it as a deal breaker. I think you should say it maybe at your second date, (if the first date went well). Telling him before the first date might look a bit weird for some guys, not all though.
Personally, I would not mind waiting another 20 years if I really love the girl, and she love me too ( ok, maybe not 20, 40yo is a bit old to be dad :) ), but you shoudl NEVER ''assume'' he will not like you because of that.
Of course he might, but you never know, and if he's a good friend, he would be very stupid to stop liking you at all just for that.1