A common complaint i see when girls get asked 'why don't you approach' is that they say it makes them seem 'desperate or slutty' when they do so.
Would you view them that way?
And girls how would you feel if you found out most guys didn't think this way about girls who approach? Would you approach more?
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Some guys may not think its slutty I think I hear that from gurks nit guys, but they just don't like it. Like they think "it's the guys job" and if the woman does it they will reject her bc it just doesn't sit right.
I've seen love gurus explain if you approach a guy hell mess around with you but will never love you bc he'll get bored bc you approached him. I think that's complete utter bs.
If you guys get to the point of a relationship he's not going to reject you bc a few months ago you asked him out.
He might just say no in the first place. Bc you asked him out.
I've knoen guys who liked a friend and she asked him out and he wouldn't acceot..
I've also seen guys reject an advance only to then later ask her out in his terms.
It's not the guys fault if he was raised to think that way, but as an adult he has the option of choosing to see wimen as human beings equal to himself in resoect , or as beings it's his job to control.
If a guy ever said no bc I asked I wouldn't regret it Id be happy to know that's how he thinks. And glad to be rid of him.
So it totally boggles my mind when women say things like I can't approach bc he won't like it... Like who the fuck cares about him at that point- good riddance.
Honestly it really annoys me that oeople choose to not do something that's heakthy fir their seif esteem bc someine might find fault with it. It should be very very clear to that person that the oersin wjo puts yiu diwn for having a healthy self confidence is not good for you and their behavior should not be encouraged .
Everytine you bend your will to suit someone's prejudice you encourage that behavior in them and they go on thinking it's ok.
I don't see it as simply an issue if who asks who but as much more. It's about control.
So yeah you can just ignore the fact they don't resoect you doing sinething that's perefctly normal and heakthy , so you can get into a relationship with them... but you can't ignore1
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