I've been dating my gf for about 5 months now almost 6. i love her but there are things that is bothering and she doesn't seem to understand. i work about 10 hours a day mon to sat and i get off about 330 to 430 everyday and she doesn't work. we live 25 miles away and i would spend around 15 dollars a day just to see her. i see her about everyday and adds mileage to my truck and cost me around 105 on gas alone to see her a week. she never wants to come see me or doesn't try. everytime we go out on casual restaurants i pay for her food and everytime we go out on dates i pay for everything. I've talked to her about it and asked her why she doesn't contribute and she says her mom told her a man is supposed to pay for everything for a girl so she can feel secure or taken care of. but i grew up different where a relationship should work half and half. she also told me that i want i want to he treated like the girl where i think it should be half and half. we have a very good sex life but sometimes i feel like thats all she wants to give me in return for treating. she has a sister and brother and none of them work. this is a very dependable family and advice they give my gf is that i should do everything pretty much. i always take her out and she never takes me out. then there will be times where i dnt take her out for a week or maybe a little more and she tells me "we are due for a date when are you going to take me out?". i feel pressured sometimes but i do it to make her happy. I've talked to my family and they all say she is lazy and her family is lazy for not working and my gf gets really offended. she is 23 years old and her mom doesn't let her sleep over my house and she has a curfew. sometimes i feel like im dating a little girl cause she doesn't have a sense of independencey. and when i go over to her house we have to be where her mom is watching us. i really love my gf but sometimes i feel like i can do better. am i right for feeling this way or am i wrong?
- i should keep goingVote A
- i should consider finding someone elseVote B
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You can do better. You deserve.. more.
With my ex sometimes I was really fast and took the bill and I payed, he felt ashamed when we were around people but then he was like "wow". He was a gentleman.
I believe that is not about who pays is about sharing. I feel good if I can make you happy buying or just taking in consideration my S. O.
We used to live like 15 miles away from each other but I worked near him so we went on dates during the week where he lived and on the weekends he went to my town.
I would say that you need to start to think on yourself, what's better for you and something very important, always listen to your family. If you can trust them, follow their advice.0