So basically I went on a date with a guy who seemed super confident and I could see he was a player.
After our coffee date he drove me to work and I was like well I bet he won't contact me because he was a typical player.
Than at work I get a text where he asked me to go to dinner at his place. I hesitated but said yes to give it a try
I went to his place.. same day as date one. I got a another impression a better one but still had my guards up. It did go well and we laughed and had a great time and he kissed me and drove me home
The next day I wrote him thank you for yesterday and the dinner. Have a happy new years. And he replied with thanks the same and happy new years :)
And that was it. . I'm not planning to text him because he is the type of guy that I think has a lot of confidence and his ego is high so I don't want to chase him.
Should I just see I'f he contacts me? I mean the guy wanted to meet twice in one day so he knows how to reach out to a girl he likes.
How can I make him chase me? I don't like to be needy
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What makes him a player? Because he has confidence?
For some reason women think I'm a player which is so far from the truth. I chase and women make it hard, act distant and aloof and often I give up if I don't get shown interest from her, because after you chase women for a while and get rejected because they think you may be a player, you learn to stay away from women who make you work all the time for them. If you don't show him you like him he will move on.
It's supposed to go: he likes you so he gives you attention. You like him so you give him attention. You guys get to know each other and if then you see signs of him being a player (aloof, always busy, distant and disrespectful ect) then you walk away.
What I see happening is he likes you and has made effort. You go along with it but show little interest. He will realize you must not like him much and move on. He has little choice when you don't show intrest. Most guys have experienced chasing a woman, trying to get her to like you or show intrest, and in the end she flakes or tells you off because she doesn't like you and 'you should have known' from the 'lack of intrest'. So you realize chasing women is a waist of time and effort.
If you like this guy show him. You don't have to throw yourself at him. But DO show him intrest or he will become the guy who you liked, who walked away (player or not).
Tell him you had a really great time and want to see him again. Nothing wrong with that. He will then want to see you again and great. Look for actual signs of a player but go for it.
The thing about players is they know how to chase so that's not going to stop them. The thing about non-players is if you make it about chaseing you will loose them. So the chase only works against you.0
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