So I have been the most vocal here about my height, at 5'9", and that I am most comfortable with a guy 5'11" and taller. I am tall for a girl, and most attracted to men who can make me feel small by comparison.
You all remember my post about the super smart guy? I have really become fond of him via text and pics; we were to meet next week.
Turns out he is only 5'9", shorter than I thought he was. Give the guy a chance and eat my words, or pass up what could be a nice guy knowing I am never comfortable or physically attracted for long to someone my height or shorter? It has never worked in the past.
It doesn't bother him at all.
Stay or "Nay?"
- Give him a chance, you never know93% (26)70% (21)81% (47)Vote
- Pass, based on your past experiences0% (0)17% (5)9% (5)Vote
- I'm just nosey and want to know what everyone said.7% (2)13% (4)10% (6)Vote
He is smart, funny, kind and already as "into me" as he could be expected to be based on phone/texts.
There is no doubt the issue is in my own head, I readily admit it. I am fully secure in my own height, but when it comes to dating I just like what I like. It is a feminine thing to want to feel safe by her date.
All "short" puns were appreciated and snickered at, each one. :)
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I kind of feel there is no correct answer to this. If you're just not attracted to him, then it's not fair on yourself to force attraction to him. It's not fair on him, either. If you think his other qualities could more than make up for his supposed, shortfall (no pun intended, if that qualifies as a pun), then give it a go, and see how you feel in person? I tend to find, that fate, in its hilarity; usually, has a way of matching you up to that thing which you hitherto vocally professed to dislike: The women who dislikes short men will get with one, the guy who dislikes older women will end up falling for one, the racist person will end up getting with someone of a different ethnicity. These people who can allow themselves to open them up to something new, I expect, can experience the greatest of joys. Maybe I should only speak for myself :)
I also intended to focus on something else, but my steam is a little low of late. Part of this seems to be about your insecurities, 'needing to be made to feel small'. I guess this is only natural. But maybe there's something there to ponder on, too?0