I've been seeing a guy almost a month and I'm sure he's ready for sex. I'm not sure yet, though. He's got a lot going on in his life and a young baby, etc. I'd like to keep seeing him, but I'm not comfortable with sex just yet. Is it just wishful thinking we can keep getting to know each other? He's not paying for anything, by the way.
How can I keep dating a guy without having sex?
What Guys Said 3
What do you mean he isn't paying for anything?
And yes, you just say you aren't interested yet. If he has a NEW YOUNG BABY and is already dating you, that should be alarm bells going off.1
Not "paying for anything" doesn't matter at all.
When he gets sexually aggreesive, just tell him you're not ready for sex... and hopefully he continues to date u and appease this need of yours. :)0
The fact that you even mentioned who pays for what suggests an unhealthy perception of sexual relationships. Good call figuring out that you're not ready. If he has a baby and has time for you, babby mama or no, he's a bad bet. Save yourself the greif and move on. If you're determined to persue this dead end, tell him a handjob is all you can offer. I'm betting he'll not be satisfied with that and show his true colors. Best of luck to you.0
What Girls Said 3
Don't jump into what you are not ready for.
That really only bring chaos around.
Open up to him, and tell him that you need more time.
You are willing to give when the time is right.
If he shares the same views as you, he wouldn't consider this a problem (although he may be a bit disappointed).0
Take things at your own speed. Don't feel pressured into anything0
Huh? He's not paying for dates? I would get rid of him already.0
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