I don't want to bring up to early and have her think that's all I'm after, but obviously I don't want to wait too long to try for it either. I haven't had much experience dating so I don't really no when I should start trying for it.
Girls, when you're dating a guy how long is before you want sex?
What Girls Said 4
Sadly despite my being conservative EVERY man I've gone out on a date with has expected that I'd sleep with him that night - and if not then by the 3rd date - wtf?
Anyway I've never allowed that and most men disappear rather fast.
My current bf also expected (because of his prior history) the same thing but in his defence at least we had an explosive chemistry...
Anyway, he asks me daily and I think it's sweet and I appreciate that he's still around (surprising to me) but he's mellowed out and we still haven't had sex.
There was a time when I wanted to wait till marriage - part of me still does... BUT I'll be okay if I know that he truly loves me and I fully trust him... I don't know how long that would take though...
We've been together just a few months...0
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My boyfriend mentioned the possibility of sex about 6 months into our relationship. He'd joked about it before, of course, but he actually sat me down and brought it up about 6 months in.
I then reminded him of my decision to wait until marriage and that I would appreciate it if he would respect that choice. I made it clear to him that my choosing to abstain did not mean that I did not desire to sleep with him. It took him a bit to understand that part.
We're 3 years in and he tried for it once and I genuinely almost dumped him on the spot. I would have, too, if he hadn't immediately apologized and begged forgiveness and mostly started talking so fast and for so long that I couldn't get a word in edgewise. His logic was apparently that since we know we're going to get married that it wouldn't be such a big deal. But he was very much wrong.
We don't talk about it now because it's still a major sore spot in our relationship. If I think about it too much I get very upset and depressed.
But I hear I am not the norm. So by all means, feel free to ignore me.
Just be cautious and make sure you know the type of girl you're dealing with. If you try for it with someone like me... it could be disastrous. If you don't try for it with a different kind of girl it could be disastrous.0
What Guys Said 1
The worst type of guys are those who approach girls with the intent to get in their pants. You don't try to get sex. It's not your main objective, or an objective at all when you look for a girlfriend. You know she's right for you when you can't imagine you two having sex because you respect her more as a person than an object.3
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