I am dating someone who has experienced a lot of hurt in life... From serving on the frontline in special ops to going down the wrong road in life as a child and having his heart broken.
I don't want to "fix" him... I just want him to feel loved and appreciated the way he deserves to be. He means an awful lot to me and I have grown close to him.
Any advice on dating someone with emotional wounds suppressed?
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Aha! I have all those traits! What I can tell you is trust. Do not listen to these doubters who will tell you to run.
First understand, everyone is fucked up, it is just a matter of how much or how little.
Take an abused dog. It will bite, attack, and be murderous to protect itself. People with these issues are the same. But if you can get the dog to trust you and treat it with kindness, it will be your most loyal devoted friend till the day it dies.
No, this is a generalization, he could easily murder you and your whole family, so the choice is yours, but do not buy into the myth that somehow life will be easier if you look for the the perfect person. If this guy loves you and is not abusive, you may bring him back to the world of sunlight and happiness. But do so gently, you cannot reengineer pain and trauma out of someone's life, this takes time. YEARS!
If you have the love and patience, it may be the most noble thing you ever do with your life.1