So I've been seeing this guy very casually for almost a year now. At first it was just "hooking up" (not sex) from time to time and he was clear from the beginning that he wasn't looking for a serious relationship.
However, since around late September, it has gotten more serious. We actually hang out more, it's become normal for us to see each other 2-3 times a week and we've now had sex, which for me was a big step.
We've had the discussion about being exclusive and he was even pretty insistent that it was what he wanted. But we haven't talked about the whole "official relationship" issue again (i don't want to put pressure on him but instead enjoy the great times we have together because we are basically in a relationship anyway - his family and our friends all know that we are involved).
I do sometimes think about it though, and I wonder if this could ever develop into a bf/gf relationship? And I'm also confused with the difference between being exclusive and official is for a guy? Because for me right now the only difference is that I'd be able to introduce him as my boyfriend (which I am willing to wait to do as long as I have the rest).
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For 'Almost a year now,' sweetie, you both Started Out in these baby steps, which Didn't Include Sex... and with This, his Honest John answers to your own Question of not 'Looking for a serious relationship,' which you have known From Day One.
However, as time progressed here, dear, you both have nursed and nurtured More in Store now, where it has gotten to the Next Super Step, and having gotten closer, 'We actually hang out more.' This is showing me you are going slow with the flow of Not rushing into anything so there is more of a chance for romance that can Help in avoiding going down a beaten path as time goes on.
I commend him and you with all the right moves and grooves. You have even Labeled 'Being 'Exclusive' and he is set in his mind and his motive to have You as his One and Only girl... however being "Official" is still Something he won't Slap a title on right now, because it is too much of a meaning being hooked at the hip and two birds of a feather, which he is Not ready Nor raring for at this point in time.
You have a good start. With you Not putting Any "Pressure on him but instead enjoy the great times we have together...' With you playing your cards right, it is developing into a bond, where the bough is holding firmer, no signs of a break.
Keep it going and flowing. You both have this amazing chemistry and magic and I feel it is worth your time to hang in there... he has feelings for you and with your patience which has become a virtue here, dear, you have him where you want him where he isn't growing cold duck feet and flying south.
I also believe that the day when he might be prepared 'To introduce him as my boyfriend,' it will be because he is truly in love with you and will Not only want you as his One and Only, but his One and Only Love Interest that he may want to even share a nest with or maybe a lifetime with.
Good luck... blessings to the both of you in 2015. xx1