Recently I was seeing a guy. We had absolutely amazing mental, emotional, and physical chemistry. From the moment we met we could talk about anything and everything, and when we were on dates, we both spoke about how we could be ourselves around each other, and just how amazing our attraction was.
Then out of the blue, he sent me this:
"I've been thinking a lot... whilst we both share feelings, I think yours are already much deeper than mine and I don't know if it would be fair for me to string you along.. I think you deserve someone who can give you all of themselves.. and i know you will find that person sooner rather than later.. just know this isn't easy for me."
I just don't understand. What more does it take? When you have such a strong physical, emotional and mental attraction with someone, what on earth would drive you to end the relationship so suddenly?
If it's of any relevance, he's 22 and I am 20.
Most Helpful Guy
First of all, you never have chemistry WITH someone, you only have chemistry FOR someone. It's nothing but endorphins and other pleasant chemicals being released in your head that are caused by excitement, newness, and mystery, and they always fade in time.
But just because you feel sparks flying for someone else, that doesn't mean they feel all that for you.
I've been in your guy's situation more than once. Where I've been dating a girl for a few months, we have fun together, the sex is good, but I'm just not feeling for her. When I can tell that she's starting to get serious about me, and it's not just a good time for her anymore, I break it off, because she's a good person and deserves someone who ~feels~ for her, and experience tells me that if I stick around, It's just going to hurt her even more.1