We've all heard the debate about which gender is more "picky" and I'm sure we've encountered a time when someone was told they are too "picky" and should lower their standards.
To me, that sounds silly.
When it comes to finding a mate, you are supposed to be picky.
I'm not saying you should require a specific height, weight, hair color, job title, salary, ethnic background, etc etc, but you ARE supposed to know what you like and desire in a mate and SEEK it.
Saying that someone is picky when it comes to dating sounds as if we are supposed to just "take what you can get." It reminds me of the saying "beggars can't be choosers."
You are not supposed to just accept anyone who comes your way as a boyfriend or girlfriend. After all most people date in order to find a husband or wife and you don't spend the rest of your life with just anyone.
I would rather be alone than date someone I don't like! Plain and simple. What's even the point of dating someone you don't like?
A while back a cute kid asked me out.
He was cute, yeah, but also overweight, too young for my tastes, had the vocabulary of a 7th grader, and smoked a lot of dope.
I rejected him. I did not like him in any way, physically, emotionally, whatever.
And a few friends of mine told me I was being picky. That's not being picky. That's me refusing to date a person I do not like!
Is that really a difficult concept to understand?
Do you agree?
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I've been told that I'm too picky far too many times. By my family, friends, even sometimes I begin to believe it. But, like you, I don't see the point in investing my heart into someone I have no interest in. I feel like all I ever do is reject guys (that sounds super conceited actually and it's not meant to be) and it's not that I don't like them, but when I like someone and see a potential relationship with them, I just know.
I do understand that sometimes you have to give people a chance to see if your feelings grow, but I know what I like, I know what I'm looking for and I don't see the point in continuing to see someone that I don't really have a connection with just in case maybe I'll want to be with him some day.
Connections are important. It's what draws people together and keeps people together. I'm not looking for that "spark", but a genuine connection You can tell pretty early on if it's there. I think it's worth being a little bit picky and waiting for a connection like that with someone special. Why waste time and emotion on someone if your heart isn't in it? When you meet the right person, you just know. There is no question.1