OK I NEED HELP
I met this girl about 3 months ago, she very nice but the thing is that she just got out of a 5 year relationship. The thing is that we got to know each other very good and the attraction is there for both of us. We had sex on the third week of hangingout with eachother and there on the sex was great. She told me that i make her very happy and she hasn't been this happy in along time, even her family and friends notice. She talks about me with her family, but the thing is that her ex is now texting her and wanting her back, but she dosnt want anything to do with him anymore (thats what she says)... well when we first met she was down but as she got to know me more she became happier... she told me that she likes me and she wants something real... but not ready for a relationship atm and she need times to heal...5 years is no joke.. i told her im willing to wait but not for ever.. and lately she would be sad one day and on the days where im there she would be so happy... I dont know what i should do.. should I back off abit or continue to hangout with her... OR should i just move on because she in not available and probably won't be for a while... she would get very jealous that other girls like me, the thing is I told her i like her and that im not talking with those other girls.. should I give those girls a chance? i dont want to push her away because i do like her a lot but i dont know how long i can wait for her.. I dont want to be the one to hurt at the end?
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I think you kinda answered your own question here. She's right, five years is a long time and she does need time to heal. But it's not fair for you if she expects you to wait for her for however long that might be. Yeah, you might make her happy, but she's not over her ex yet.
If you truly believe that she's worth waiting for, then you can definitely do that. But be prepared to wait a while. Based on the second part of your question, it sounds like you want a relationship with her now or in the near future. And if not, you're going to move on to other options. I think this is perfectly reasonable. Don't play her or any other potential love interests though. You're already talking about moving on, so I feel like you've already pushed her away in some sense.
I don't think you have to totally exclude her from your life, seeing as you get along well. However, you do need to make it clear with her where you stand relationship-wise and how you will act with other girls. It might be best to say something like "hey, I really like and care about you, but a relationship isn't going to work out for us right now and I don't want to pressure you into anything you're not ready for. I'm not interested in any other girls right now, but it's also not fair to me to have to fully commit to you yet. We should remain friends, and maybe revisit the idea of a relationship in _______ amount of time." Good luck!1
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