I've been with this guy for a month now, but we've known each other for a while. I don't want to hide my past from him, but how do I go about telling him? I don't want to scare him off. And I don't want him to pity me, either. I've never told anyone out loud, but he doesn't like to text, so that's out of the question. And I can't write it to him in a note, either, I want to say it out loud to him, but how would I bring it up?
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I was in this same situation, i eventually had to tell my guy because he was getting frustrated with how low my sex drive was and how I seemed nervous and jumpy whenever he was trying to be intimate - I had been raped only 2 months earlier.
I think you should say "look, can I share something with you? I've never told anyone this, and it's going to be really hard for me." He should be willing to listen and be understanding and gentle with your feelings. Guys are usually very, very shocked to find this out about someone they know because they don't understand how frequent it happens - sometimes it feels like something "that happens to other people". Just breathe deeply and you should definitely tell him in person. It will all be alright!1