This guys is otherwise awesome, a great communicator, and we talk all the time. He seems dedicated on making this work, and never mentions anything about walking away or dating others.
However, when he doesn't get his way or I've upset him in some way, even if we've discussed the situation beforehand, he'll pull the silent treatment.
Like this weekend, I had to work the entire weekend and wasn't able to see him. I work nights and have to sleep during the day. He wanted to see me during the day after my last shift, and hasn't full grasped that that's when I sleep. It's not a nap, it's my sleep time, and only getting 3 hours after 3 back to back 12's isn't going to cut it.
So I let him know days in advance that it probably wouldn't work this weekend and that I was so sorry. I wanted to make sure we were okay, that he wasn't upset, that we wouldn't have another break in communication. He said it was perfectly understandable since he's NEVER available after 11pm on work nights so that he can get 8 hours of sleep.
He sent me 2 sweet texts this morning, I answered him as soon as I got up, and now nothing. I've called and texted multiple times, and he's ignoring me again. This keeps happening!!
Every time it does, the next day he'll act like he was napping, too busy, "just didn't have any time to reply," etc. But any other day where I didn't upset him, he'll always have time. There's no reason to let 4 unanswered texts and calls go by unless you're pissed, and he ONLY does it after I haven't done what he's wanted.
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I'm sure you've noticed this, but communication is vital to a successful relationship. To say you guys are great at communication must also circumscribe the moments when you are angry at the opposing partner. Being able to sit down and calmly work through an argument without usage of physical, emotional, and mental abuse is ideal. Unfortunately, there is not much we can say here that will change your boyfriends method of anger management and problem solving skills. You must go to your boyfriend and confront him of this issue. Make it clear that this issue must be solved, and that he must be more understanding of you. Try to find the moment to sit him down and discuss this with him. Tell him you do not like silence treatments, that it is an ineffective method to solve issues between you to. If he chooses not to listen to you, then you will have to resort to more harsher methods of getting your point through.0