In an 'equal' society, why am I making a down payment just to see a woman? Well, certainly, the U. S. is anything but equal, but this concept still bugs me. When I was younger, money never factored in to it. Either we had it or we didn't, and we would both buy meals for each other when we did have it. Going on picnics with home made food and stuff. I only went to a real restaurant a couple of times, and that was with my (ex) fiance when I was 17; so, I didn't care what I had to pay, because we were already together, and I adored her. It was about spending time with one another, not which one of us was the 'provider'.
(Although, seriously? 50 bucks for a hamburger that isn't even as good as Wendy's? And that was in 2007! >_> Although, the view was very nice up in a tower overlooking Dallas.)
So, why am I supposed to buy her meal when she's just a stranger to me? I'm just supposed to, because if you don't, then you're an asshole. Even if she makes more money than me.
If a chick expects me to pay for the first date, just to get a free meal and run out, then fuck that.
One of my female acquaintances outwardly told me that she thinks that men should treat women better than women treat men, and that it's their 'role' to be the provider. That's some seriously old fashioned thinking for a liberal, incidentally.
Then, I have to question whether equality is even possible, given our innate desires. Men, to chase down a woman and bump her over the head, so to speak, with a club: claiming victory. And the woman, chasing and ultimately wanting to be controlled and protected and chased and desired. Masculine being power and feminine wanting to be controlled by that power. I. e., 'you're the man, so you should be able to catch me a chicken,' so to speak.
I'm not saying this is always true, just that those seem, to me, to be the innate instincts of men and women; however, intellect, the ability to reason, isn't included in that.
I just see it as archaic.
- A man should always pay for a woman's meal.Vote A
- Many (narcissistic) women want it both ways: supposed equality and special treatment.Vote B
- If it's a first date, they should both pay for their own food.Vote C
- I really don't know or care.Vote D
- If it's the first date, then the man should pay at first, then when they're actually going out more, the woman should offer to pay for a meal out of respect for what the man has done.Vote E
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I never got that thing about guys paying. When I was younger and watched my popular older brother go on many dates, I always thought it was dumb that he would have to pay for her. Plus, once I started dating myself, if the guy tried to pay for me I felt very awkward and uncomfortable. I actually hated it. I think that both people on the date should just pay for themselves. It the logical thing to me. However, if either guy or girl insists on paying as "their treat" then it's just a kind thing to do but not necessary.2