I am 26 and have just started wondering that since I have always been the single friend and the few guys I did like, didn't want me back.. is it a sign that I may never find someone? I mean you know how people keep hoping things will change, I have started looking at it from the other side... who says anything will change? I am not fat, i am actually thin and beautiful and funny and kind. But there is something wrong with me of course, which never makes me "the one" for guys. they will never choose me. Do you guys have any experiences to share or know any stories of girls who are always the 'bridesmaids but never the bride'? Or guys for that matter who miraculously after rejections get an awesomely suited person? My friends suggest I will most likely settle when I'm 30. I can see myself doing it now too tbh but yea.. I'd like to be alone for a while if I have to settle anyway
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I am thirty five and in your position. You are correct, there is something wrong with you, but it is in your heart. I do not believe it is vulnerable enough. Getting bitter over not having someone to love is going to put up a wall around your heart that will forever repel guys.
I have the same problem, and while I attract some females, it is usually for the wrong reasons so I must decline their advances.
You should not focus on being alone, rather, you should be doing some deep introspection into your very heart, soul, and mind, and doing "Spiritual surgery", or at least, seeking and allowing God to do so. I fully realize the reason I am still alone is because I have not yet been fully prepared, or am ready to give all of who I am, my entire life to a woman, to care for her, love her, be there for her, be her lover, her best friend, cherishing her above all else in this twisted, empty world.
Lose the bitterness and work on yourself. Not your outward looks which are good for attracting all the wrong guys, but your inward heart! The masculine desires the feminine, and a bitter, angry, hurt woman is about as feminine as a rhinoceros.0