I had a "pre-date" with this girl whom I like a lot a couple days ago, and it went really well. We spent the day together at her house watching Netflix, eating a bunch of food (I brought her her favorite snacks), singing songs to each other, and just being in each other's company. The reason why I had this "pre-date" with her is because we never hung out together alone (she always had friends there) and I wanted her to see how well I could treat her. That way when I asked her out on a real date, she would be more inclined to say "yes".
Anyway after I went home, I texted her saying that I had a great time and things seemed normal. A couple days later I texted her again, but she did not reply. And now, another couple of days later, I just texted her and she hasn't replied yet. What could this mean? Is she losing interest? Am I being a pest? I know she has stuff going on, mainly school, but she hasn't not replied to me before so I'm worried. I REALLY like her, we're really close friends, and I don't want to end up unintentionally pushing her away :/
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First of all, didn't you write an amazing article for this site? I think you're that guy. If it's you, I loved it. And that girl is really and truly missing the opportunity to be with a wonderful guy.
I think the only way you'll know for sure is to get the answer from her. You've gotten mixed messages. You had a wonderful time, but she isn't accepting or rejecting your date. She's being rude to you with the lack of responses to your texts. It sort of spells out that she's not interested, and I'm sorry. I think you need to wait at least one or two more days and send this:
Hey, I'm really interested in you and I'm not hiding my feelings. I feel like you're avoiding my messages, but I'm asking that you are upfront with me instead ignoring me. Please, if I need to stop, just tell me. If you like me, as a friend or as anything else, let me know. I'm only asking that you don't ignore me.1