Ok So I asked a bunch of girls out over a course of six years and most of them responed with the following answers I'm not ready for a relationship right now and I think you are a great guy, or You are a great guy and anyone would be lucky to be dating you but I'm not allowed or I'm not ready.What does that mean when they say that?am I just ugly or unlovable maybe both?
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ok scientifically speaking you can never judge a whole system just from a limited number of cases - in other words - having a streak of undesired experiences does not mean that this is the only way things can be...
second, take a good hard look at yourself and ask what it is that you can offer in a relationship, build a profile of what you can offer and what you want, and then evaluate if the two can work out, if you desire something you can't sustain or afford then maybe ask what you have to start to offer if you want to meet someone elses needs profile. for example a good number of girls probably want a guy that is confident in himself so what you would need in order to offer that is mainly to become more confident, and one way to do that would be to get yourself to not question your whole person and if you are at all loveable when it didn't work out with some. also the time when you should ask yourself why the relationship didn't work out should be when a long-term relationship went bad.
but who cares for the millions of reasons that it might or might not work out for others the important thing is it didnt, the train has left the station so what you need to focus on is to move on and find another train/girl you can get a ride on ;)
yes being self-critical is important, but such questions lead to really low self-esteem given little experience and young age.
my advice would be to try out activities that can be done socially that train your body and mind and if you found something you enjoy, start getting good at it, and invest some time and then maybe start with a second one.
not only will this usually open up a lot of ways to casually get to know girls through those activites and you already have something in common and even if it doesn't happen there, it is a topic you can talk about in conversations. but most important, it will make you feel good because you achieved something, and suddenly some girl not wanting you at the moment becomes a much smaller issue, because you have enough other stuff going on anyways
keep your head up man,