I'm getting drinks with this guy, and I'm really interested. He's 24, I'm 21 - I just don't want to have sex too soon or wait too long. Is sex on the first date always a no? And if not sex, how far is it okay to go?
Also - is going back to his apartment after drinks to "drink some wine and watch Netflix" leading him on if I decide to wait to have sex?
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My personal opinion is to wait for sex till you're in a committed relationship however, that's sometimes a little hard to follow in the heat of the moment. If you give it up on the first date, you risk the chance he'll never call or bother with you again because you gave it up too soon and he got what he wanted. He may view you as slutty as well and think you're not his type of girl. If you want to know if he's a keeper, there's no problem waiting. If he really likes you, he'll wait.
Really, it's all about what you want in the long run. Are you looking for a quick lay or are you looking for a long term relationship?
Personally, first date, I don't expect the girl to go passed making out if she even kisses at all. Some girls have that personal rule of no kissing on the first date and I can live with it. Definitely a kiss on the second date if you're hoping for a third date. After 3-5 dates, nothing wrong with fooling around. If he's not willing to commit to a monogamous relationship, then don't give it up. He's not worth it. That's if you care about your self respect.1