we met online, and hung out during the holidays. things went well and we continue to talk non stop, he works out of town and we won't see eachother for another month. we did discuss that since we are just meeting, that going on other dates will probably happen, but we would hang out again when we got the chance and see what happens, now he tells me he is meeting another chick next month, it sounds like she is going to him, but he still wants to hang out with me after, but if he starts to date this girl, then there would be conditions if we hung out... he's keeping me as an option correct? or just "dating"
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There is one of two possibilities here:
1) He is completely daft, but very honest, has no social skills, and told you about another girl.
2) There is no other girl. He made it up because he's nuts about you and naively thinks that making up a story about another girl will make him appear more desirable.
If he is really seeing another girl, ther is no inherent benefit to telling you. The relationship allows for it, right? So just do it and bring it up when its serious choosing time. By telling you, he risks a rival to drive the other girl away and he will not be able to properly compare his options, and not to mention it would come off as showing disengenuous feelings, like you were less important, and I wouldn't want you to feel that way because maybe you weren't and I was just comparing. No matter how you spin it, openly involving two females degrades your position with one or both. So you either don't have the sense to know (#1), or you are just jerking someone around (#2).1