Is it being introverted really that bad? I am a man on my early 30's, have a good job, I've been educated in some of the best universities in the world, have a sound financial record and still I am alone, being in love is a disgrace to me because I know I will be harmed and all of that is because I am introverted, all people wants to have fun and I am certainly not the first choice of anybody who wants to have it, should I try to pretend to be something Im not? (a funny extroverted guy), or should I give up and hope that someday some girl will choose me because of my professional success and not because of just being me?
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I think you just need to be comfortable with who you are and don't define yourself by your occupation and training. Don't punish yourself for not being the "funny extroverted guy" - this can only erode your confidence and, no, not everyone wants a guy like that. He perhaps gets noticed because he's dynamic but that can be annoying or intimidating. Unfortunately if you are down like your question seems like then you will come across as desperate or needy and women will be put off so get yourself in a more positive frame of mind. Think about what personal qualities you do have - caring, thoughtful, interested in others, interesting hobbies, etc? Until you feel comfortable with yourself you are not going to project these positive attributes that you do have. Are you targeting the quieter (perhaps introverted) girls or the bubbly extroverted ones? The introverted girl, who probably appreciates your qualities, will probably be just as shy as you. Rather than hitting clubs or parties, think about different places you might find women that are like minded - book clubs, toastmasters, or other places where you can break the ice by discussing a common interest and build a connection there.1