My bf is very close with his housemate. They're good guys. His housemate is single, and he gets angry because Valentine is coming. My bf and I usually hangout at his place. Yesterday I overheard them and basically his housemate said he hates it because I'm always in their house. What should I do now?
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First and foremost, this is on your boyfriend to worry about, not you. For a lot of people, their house is a sanctuary and it can be really hard when they have to share that space on the regular. I don't know about you, but when I'm at home, I feel like I don't have to worry about being presentable to the public (read: shower or wear pants) but when someone else is there I do. When I don't feel like I can relax, it's sort of like being a prisoner in my own home. Add to that the fact that the housemate is probably jealous of your boyfriend's relationship, and it's understandable that he would be upset about you being there all the time.
The first thing to do is talk to your boyfriend, since he knows the housemate better than you do. Maybe the housemate is just in a bad mood about something and this will blow over. Also, think about ways that you might occasionally include the housemate in activities when you're over there (by which I mean games and stuff, not a threesome or anything). The less he feels like a third wheel, the more comfortable he'll be around you. And in the same mindset, make sure that you don't spend too much time encroaching on the common areas of the house where he would otherwise be spending time if you weren't there. Finally, think of ways to get out of the house, either at your place if that's feasible, or just going out so that the housemate can have some alone time.0