I am slightly overweight and am wondering which I should do. Should I lose weight so girls will find me better looking? Or find someone who will like me how I am then lose weight for her once we're together? I also plan on working out then eventually having a six pack.
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When you are single is definitely the time to lose weiggt and get fit. You have the time and motivation then.
Trust me, going into a relationship is a time when people tend to put on weight, not lose it. You feel more relaxed and less concerned with looking good, you have less time and less control over your diet (dinner dates and eating together generally tends to screw up a diet plan). There is evidence that men's hormone balance even changes, they produce less testosterone when in a relationship, which makes gaining muscle mass more difficult.
Get fit single, then trying to stay as fit in a relationship will be the challenge then.
And let's be honest, isn't this 'find someone before I lose weight so I know they like me for who I am' thing just a little bit pompous? Most attraction is not rational, it's primal and instinctual. Just because someone wasn't as attracted to you when you were carrying round a spare tyre doesn't automatically make them a horrible superficial person, it's just what they instinctually find attractive or not. If they are superficial then you will find that out soon enough anyway. Also being in better shape will boost your confidence and make you more attractive to women that aren't just skin deep anyway, so it's impossible to say someone being attracted to 'fit you' but not being attracted to 'overweight you' is purely about looks, because your personality will have changed a little too.0