My fiances mom every year makes him a cake on his bday every year and has us over and other family. This year now that we live together and I have been cooking and baking a lot more I would like to bake it for him and have his family over. His mom got upset that I will be making the cake and not her. I mean in my mind its not thwt crazy its just easier since we live together but she is getting all weird about it saying to him well I am your mom and I gave birth to you and I am your blood she isn't shouldn't I get to make the cake? Each time he reassures her that she is still going to celebrate with him because we are having the family over its just this year I will be making the cake. I mean does she expect that she will always be making the cake even after we are married he is turning 28? What should we so I mean I don't want her over if she is going to be bitter about it the whole time. How do we nicely tell her to get over it and accept it?
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Okay lets be real here, this has nothing to do with a cake. It's jealousy from both sides. You want to make the cake because, y'all live together and you think it is your place. His mom doesn't want to let go of this family tradition she has with her son. His mom is realizing she is losing her son, and I'm sure it difficult for her to deal with this. You need to do all you can to make sure his mother and you have a relationship, she is going to be your mother-in-law and if your relationship with is not good, it will effect your relationship with your boyfriend/husband in the long run. I say compromise is the best in this situation, because you want his mother to like you. Maybe suggest that she bakes the cake, and comes over to yalls place, or you bake the cake the cake and come over to her place. The way you deal with this is very important, you don't want to be in the situation where your mother-in-law hates you, your marriage won't last long. Everything I have said applies if he had a good relationship with his mother before you came into the picture. Either way you don't want to be the reason your boyfriend/husband doesn't have a relationship with his mother, because he will end up hating you. Do the right thing and do what's best for your boyfriend on his birthday, it's about him not you.1