So my bf and I have been dating 8 months now and this close female friend of his likes to hang out alone watching movies with him in his apartment they also set aside one night a week to watch this show together every week. I very nicely said that it makes me uncomfortable that he is hanging out alone with another women in his apartment and then setting aside one night a week every week to watch a show with her sounds like something you would do with a gf not a girl who is just a friend. I said I am totally cool with their friendship but I think that they can cool it down with the movie dates. I said they can hangout but in like public. He said he understood completely where I am coning from and that he realizes it is more of a respect thing than a control thing. Then when he explained that to his friend she got upset which makes me think she is crazy and likes him. Now he is second guessing his decision I'm like hello I am your gf not her whose feelings do you care more about respecting here? The girl you plan on making a future with or a girl who is just a friend? He agreed me but it seems odd that he was willing to go back on his agreement to appease his friend over me. I felt a certain type of way about that. It isn't like I'm saying they can't ever hangout. What do you guys think?
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You being his girlfriend doesn't make any of his friends' value decrease just because you say so.
You are evidently not cool with their friendship. Why WOULDN'T she be upset over being told she can no longer hang out with her friend alone?
You pretty much accused her of being a vixen and your only basis is that they hang out alone and that she has a vagina.
If you had guy friends, would you appreciate being told not to hang out with them alone?
Would you like it, if your boyfriend was so insecure and untrusting that he had to ASK you to stop interacting with other guys unless other people are around?
What you did was tell him you don't trust him not to be a scumbag and if he were in the vicinity of poon, he wouldn't be able to stop himself.
Your request is insulting and I totally undermines the validity of male-female platonic relationships.
Why should he stop hanging out with his best female buddy? Who are you to dictate who he can have as a movie night buddy?
You sound insecure and he's very correct in having doubts about your demands.
You need to fix your paranoia and jealousy, rather than limit his social interaction with females.0
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