I really like this guy who's a massive player but he's literally the male vale version of me, except I'm not a player. We like the same stuff, get on really well and he's a great friend. Then there are these other 2 guys who are so sweet and kind. The bipolar of players. They're so lovely but I have very little in common with them and they seem really boring personality wise. They're not to coolest or the best looking but I dont care for looks to be honest. Am I beening harsh? Advice please
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Successful players are successful because they are ATTRACTIVE - even if they aren't especially PHYSICALLY attractive, they have confidence and swagger and use what they've got, and women fall for it and let themselves get used by players, often being in denial or deceiving themselves into believing that he really LIKES her or that she can CHANGE him. LOL.
The thing is: you are 18, and you aren't going to listen to what anyone else has to say, so you might as well get with the guy and learn the lesson for yourself. Then you can be mad at him and think "all guys suck" when you know the truth is that you knew what he was in the first place and chose to be with him anyway. You'll get used and dumped (or just forgotten), and you'll cry, but at least you'll learn, and perhaps you'll realize that those "boring" guys actually have something you value: loyalty and respect, and that "exciting" and "dangerous" guys will almost always hurt you or use you, because that's what makes them "dangerous" in the first place.
Most girls have to learn this the hard way.0