I always look for a man that is supportive mentally, kind hearted, would kick some ass if it came down to it, works heard but knows how to come home, hold his girl, cuddle up and watch a movie while running fingers threw her hair and of course not too hard on the eyes... pretty dreamy right? Well, can some one please tell me why there are so few like that? Why so many guys pretend to be that man but after a month or two they turn into cowards? I know there are some out there but damn I'm getting older not younger! O my real question is... why do guys fake their personalities?
Most Helpful Guy
Most guys don't necessarily intentionally fake. Those things they do are somewhat of who they really are, but those are guys that focus too much on keeping their girl happy, and not thinking about their own happiness. I mean just look at all the things you listed
Hard working- reasonable, this is just generally a good trait to have
Would kick ass if the situation called for it- basically Mr. Come to the rescue, reality, not every guy wants to have to clean up your mess, or engage in a fight, period
Come home and hold his girl/cuddle during movie- Not many guys like to just sit there doing nothing while your romantic comedy is on, that's just a fact of life.
Out of all of those things, where does his happiness come in? And please don't say "If he did those things, I'd make sure he's happy, because I'm happy" you're happiness is him making deals with you. Would these things make you happy? Yes, but in the long run, you will eventually want more and more.
The guy you described doesn't exist, it's exactly what you said it is, a fake, an act.0