Why are girls that are on dating sites, afraid to actually go and meet the guy who they've been talking to?
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Part of it is the fear/safety factor, which is only intensified by the fact that she hasn't met you in person, seen you interact in public, gotten an in-person "vibe."
However, I think the real reason is more complicated than that. There's a fantasy of speaking online that has a real potential to end abruptly in person. They're worried things will be different. You'll be different, you won't be as impressed with her, things will change. The fantasy will end.
Plus, women are used to being the ones approached. They know that if you approach her in person, speak with her for a few minutes and then ask her out, you're interested in everything you've seen and heard so far. This is comforting to a woman, and a knowledge we get used to. We know that men are a take it or leave it on the spot kind of species. Meeting online means you haven't seen us in person, talked to us in person, or decided you like us in person. That can be a scary thing to go test out for a woman once we've gotten to know you and decided we like you.2