Now this sounds like a dumb question but whenever I think love relationships, I think of a man doing and paying for almost everything in a relationship rather than making it mutual.
As a guy, if women can have a lot of expections of us, why can't we have our own expectations of how a woman should treat us in a relationship?
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I like spoiling people. I never had a lot growing up and what I did have, I used to give away or donate, much to my mothers horror and dissatisfaction. There are a lot of ungrateful people in the world, but there are also a lot of people who grew up like me, with not much, just enough to get by, and it feels nice when someone caters to you and cares about you.
This goes for men and women equally, but the reason that it feels like men carry the relationship, treat their woman to stuff, and buy everything for their girl, is because of the fact that we didn't get a lot of the same rights as men until around the middle of the 1800's, a little earlier for other countries, but in the US, women weren't allowed to vote until 1920, and many of the other equalizing rights weren't given to us until about 1820. Now, that's over 100 years ago, so why are we still expectant of men to do everything for us? Because we took so long to equalize everything.
There's a stigma around how women are the child bearers and can't fend for themselves, therefore needed to be fended for. Which is where the men come in. It's an unspoken stigma that's still just generally accepted today.
Now, that's not all of us. I feel bad for having my meals paid for by a man. I think some things should be more mutual between the genders. But what it comes down to is how slow we were to accept that women are equal to men, how we raise our children, and how much communication is established. I have no problem paying for a meal, I also have no problem holding the door open for my man instead of him doing it for me, but the problem lays in how we teach our children, specifically girls, that we are helpless, and therefore must make the men pay. Literally.0