I'm very curious to hear how many messages you ladies get from guys, on online dating sites.
1) How many messages a day, or week, do u get in your inbox?
2) Do u have a hard time keeping up with all of the messages? Do u just end up leaving some of the messages unanswered because It's impossible to answer them all?
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In the first week it's the most. I think the first day it was near 50 messages, but then it tapered off by the end of the week to like 10 or so a day, if that.
It is hard to keep up with all the messages. I typically only respond to those I find attractive or who made it seem like they read my profile. Some may disagree, but I think it would be more rude to send back "Not interested" just to respond instead of not answering at all.
I'd say the hardest part about it is that normal guys seem surprised I'm on there and usually interrogate me a little. I think I'm decently attractive, but I'm not a 10/10 model. I turn heads but I don't break necks. I'm also busy in my real life, so online dating at the time was really a great option for me.
But the guys I was interested in would keep giving me the 3rd degree about what I was doing on there, why I wasn't dating guys I meet in real life, and some even assumed I was catfishing. In fact, it built up such a hype that I started thinking, "Wow, he thinks I'm some perfect girl in his head, he's going to be disappointed when he actually sees/gets to know me and all my flaws are exposed. Maybe my pictures don't show the real me, maybe our conversation hasn't shown the real me." Etc etc. It actually deterred me from meeting people!3