I love my boyfriend so much. He seems like he is always honest and that he didn't want another woman but me. We are so in love at this point that I would be completely devastated if he ever cheated or something like that. I just want to know if you guys think men can completely faithful. I would really like guys opinion on this too. And maybe some tips on how to keep him sexually satisfied? Thanks
as I am sitting here reading your question...the only two things that comes to mind are this...
first...some fact... you are so caught up in men being faithful...when reality is..now a days...women cheat just as much as men...there are plenty of recent studies to prove this. now ten fifteen years ago this was not the case...men were I believe 40 percent more like to cheat then women...but that is just not the case anymore...women have very much evened the playing field. so even though at one point in time it was fair to have this very one sided view of cheating...it is not anymore. both men and women do it almost as much as each other.
second..and more importantly...
you have some sort of insecurity about being cheated on...why that is I don't know...what I do know is that you need to work it out... bringing this type of insecurity to a relationship...especially without cause...will inevitably be the downfall of you two... men and women alike can pick up on their partners insecurities...so when you are constantly worrying about him cheating ...he can sense that ... he can feel it...and it feels like distrust. now when you are giving someone energy of distrust for no reason...there natural reaction is to feel attacked...and rightfully so because you have a lack of trust for them that is undeserving...as he hasn't done anything to embed this idea of cheating into your brain.
thus the stepping stones for many future problems and insecurities and trust issues are layed...eventually splitting you two apart.
do men cheat? yes
do women cheat? yes
are men faithful? yes
are women faithful? yes
it is really an even playing field...so my advice to you ...is to start working on this insecurity of yours...figure out why it is there ...and work on it till it is gone...before it starts to put an unnecessary strain on your relationship.
IMHO, faithfulness comes from a desire to stay with that person. Yes, couples do argue/fight/etc but on the other side of the hill- the same couple will make-up/talk/be friends.
I lack the personal motivation to be tied down at this point in time (only with my significant other at this particular moment). I spoke to her about why that is- she has a history of cheating (with me as well). Yes I know this isn't a happy relationship, but all the same I am not running around to different girls when things go sour. There is not rebuttle to when a guy has his mind set on dating just one girl.
There are several sides as no human-being is the same, maybe identical at most; we all have an inner-child that develops differently.
If there is something your Boyfriend is doing that confuses you, please update your question and I'll be glad to help as much as I can :)
Trouble only comes to those who worry. Take pride in your boyfriend and your relationship. We can't tell the future, and sometimes bad things befall us, but we can't let it stop us from enjoying what we have here and now.
I was a player. I had cheated on every girl I'd ever dated because I was a hornball and afraid of committment, yada yada. But, I fell so hard for this girl and would never have dreamed of cheating on her. Then got my heart broken. I would suggest being as open minded sexually as possible. Try anything once, or even twice. The more open you are, the more interested he'll be.
Young people tend to think of circumstances in black and white. As people get older, they tend to see the gray areas more, issues become more complex. I personally believe that if a man is not sexually satisfied in a marriage, he will seek it elsewhere, it's just a matter of time. Even if he doesn't cheat, he will become frustrated and will take the frustration out on his family. Another alternative is divorce of course.
I believe being sexually compatible and able to compromise is important in a marriage. Tips on how to keep him sexually satisfied: Understand what turns him on, what his fantasies are, frequency he likes to have sex, etc. Every man is different.