My bf and I have been dating for 4 years and he is 28 and I'm 24. We only see each other mostly on weekends because he is a truck driver and he drives mostly nights and I work full time M-F 8:30-5:30. Well Saturday me and him were out with a bunch of friends so we haven't had time for just the two of us in a while so we decided to go out for lunch just us two on Sunday. Well about an hour before he comes to get me and said his mom wants him to come over. They live about ten minutes away. I said that's fine its been 2 weeks since you seen her we can go over and he was like well she wants it to be a mother son day. So I'm like well we had these lunch plans first and to spend the day together and its an hour before hand. I told him fine go. I asked him if he told his mom that we already had plans and he said he did. Now knowing that you think she wouldn't expect him to drop his plans with me last minute when we don't see each other a lot or she would have bee like well you can bring your gf along. It gets even better he gets to his moms house and his step dad is there his grandma and his aunt and his cousin so it wasn't just mother and son she lied to him to get him to drop his plans with me to be with her in a manipulative way I feel. I don't understand it either because I am always invited to his moms so why all of a sudden am I being frozen out? He said he is going to talk to his mom about him and I feeling hurt. Thoughts on the situation.
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Ah, mother-in-laws. It's fantastic, really.
While my boyfriend's mom isn't necessarily manipulative--she can be very very hurtful.
He and I have been dating for over a year, we live together, have a joined bank account and all that jazz. But his mom still treats me like a casual date. There have been weekends I couldn't spend with my boyfriend because she wants HIM to go visit them, not US. The times it hurt me the most were on Thanksgiving, where my boyfriend bought me a plane ticket to go with them to their family event and she told me I couldn't go, and Christmas Eve, where I spent the day completely alone because he was at his parents house and she didn't want me there. My family is broken apart right now, and he's all I have. So spending two of the most iconic family days alone in my bed was horribly depressing.
His parents also have their hands in our finances, which makes it difficult for me to try and talk to my boyfriend about it. They gave us a car--but kept their name on the title, they co-signed our apartment and they set up our electric bill under their names. While it was nice, I feel like now i have to walk on eggshells because if I piss them off--boom, there goes the car, the power and the place we call home. Which means I get to babysit his sister, I get to spend holidays alone, and I get to have some other woman come into my house and tell me that I am not doing things the right way JUST BECAUSE MY CUPS ARE ON THE SECOND SHELF IN THE CABINET AND NOT THE FIRST.0