Me and this guy met in Nov. We were going on dates, and we had sex. He just he got out of a 7 year relationship a month before. In the beginning he even said "but I'd like to be with you aside from the sex is what you fail to realize" He even said it would be nice to have a girlfriend but he is looking for someone to settle down with. He texted me every day, told me he likes me a lot. We would hang out without having sex. He talked about meeting parents and maybe taking me to his best friend's wedding in May. He always holds my hand. When I was studying at Starbucks one night he came out to see me, no sex. one day he was acting distant and I went crazy texting him 50 times. he told me he was done. we went a week without talking and then we grabbed lunch 2 weeks ago. he paid, and we didn't have sex. The next day I invited him to my new years eve party, and he declined. he then told me he's not looking for a relationship. I asked him if there were feelings and he said "I did have feelings" and he said "Idk what I want and I dont want to lead you on." Then I asked if this was my fault and he said "it definitely isn't you" Then we ended up talking about meeting up to have sex and hang out. Before we met up he seemed hesitant and told me that he doesn’t want me throwing this in his face that all he wanted from me was sex. He also told me he doesn’t want me thinking this is anything more than what it is. We ended up meeting up to have sex and then we went to lunch. During lunch he said “you’re the best." Last week I asked him if he wanted to meet up to have sex and he said "can't have class" then I said "when can you" he said "idk shay in class can't talk" then I asked if he still wanted to have sex in general, and he didn't answer. Hours later I apologized for asking and he said "it's ok babe." it's been 4 weeks, haven't heard from him.
1. Was I just sex to him or did he actually have feelings for me?
2. Did he want me as a gf and I messed up?
I'm really upset about this whole situation?
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It's possible that he thought of you as something at first, but then when you texted him those 50 times, it made him reconsider because he thinks you're crazy (whether that's valid or not). Your more recent story I think was just him realizing that he could sleep with you and he did. He told you not to think of it as anything more and when you tried to reach out (even though you were asking for sex) he tried to subtlety remind you that you guys aren't a thing anymore. I know it sucks, but the best you can do for yourself is move on. Let him contact you and set your sights low if you do decide to see him again.0
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