These past 3 weeks have been amazing with this girl. We have fun and deep conversations, share a lot of the same values, and are even interested in the same hobbies. The other day, however, she shared with me a piece of information about her past sex life that has really bothered me. Personally, I am a virgin and would like to remain that way until after marriage. This girl has only slept with one other man, which she really regrets. By all means, this does not mean that she is a bad person, but for some reason, I cannot shake this part of her past. It hurts me on the inside that someone else was there before me. I am considering ending things here before we go any deeper, but at the same time, I care for her a lot. Any advice would be appreciated.
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I think it's normal to feel upset about not being able to be someone's first if they were to be your first as well and you really like them. I would feel that way if I found out my crush was with other girls before me but if he did like me then I would have to realize that the past girls are irrelevant now. I understand this insecurity, it seems as if we overthink virginity nowadays. One of my friend lost it a couple months ago to a friend just for the hell of it so she would stop being insecure about being a 20 year old virgin. If you and this girl really enjoy each other than it would be horrible to let something like that go. You two seem to have good chemistry and hopefully you will be able to look past her previous sex experiences, she said she regrets it anyway. If she stopped liking you cause you are a virgin then she's not worth it anyway.1