I'm new to dating (9 years in a LTR/Marriage) how do you tell if a guy likes you vs. him just wanting to play?
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Not always true that they'll tell you.
The only way to tell is congruence. What they say and what they do, are in sync on a high rate... that high rate differs between person to person but I would personally say they're 90 to 95% congruent. Think of your friends, when they make plans with you, when they tell you something, when they request something, and/or when they promise something... and I would say the same level of accountability you hold them to would be the same way you could discern if a guy likes you - as he would be doing this at an EARLY stage of interaction.
Additionally, pay attention to body language, not the cliche stuff, but things like actively involved in conversation with you, with a clear sense of excitement/happiness to be in said conversation, tries to be positive/humorous, and/or trying to be actively confident/impress you.1