My boyfriend hits me when I disobey him. He has his set of rules that I'm supposed to follow or I'll get punished. If I flirt with other guys, put myself in danger, backtalk etc he would lecture me and throw me across his lap and spank/whip me. It gets really embarrassing because I start crying and begging him to stop. I feel like a 10 year old when I'm a legal adult of 19 years old. He spanks on my bare bottom which just adds up to the humiliation. We never have sex after it, he just leaves me crying on the bed alone. Several hours later he would tell me he loves me. He says he's doing what's best for me. Is it normal? He is 24 and I'm 19.
Most times I do deserve what I get and apologize after. I do actually watch what I do next time and never make the same mistakes again. It does work on me but this whole concept is scaring me. Is it normal?
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First you should try to understand what's "right" and what's "wrong"... Nothing is objectivly right or wrong unless your education say so. Does your education say that you deserve a punishement if you have a bad behaviour? Well.. Mine says yes.
Now the problem is the following, "who has the right to punish you ?" Surely not your boyfriend unless you both agree on it. In that way your boyfriend is kinda wrong to be behaving this way as "hurting" someone physically is something that he shoudl'nt be the one to do. He should either try to put some logic in your mind or leave because there's nothing worth in front.
Now I will be honest, you seem to have some issues with yourself, you dont seem to be smart nor to have an identity. (Sorry if I am hurting you here) "My opinion" is that you should break up with that guy, first because he seems to have serious issues as well, second because you should be focusing on developping your own self and that person obviously will make things worse in that matter.0