Sorry for the repeat post, but I thought I could use more opinions.
My bf and I are sixteen. I'm concerned that he's losing interest because I'm injured, and he used to visit me about 3 times a week, and this week he only has twice. I asked him to come over once and he said he was sick and was helping out his parents with heavy-duty housework (which I thought was sketchy, since I didn't think you could do that with a stomach ache? But his parents are like drill sergeants and he's SUPER SUPER SUPER loyal to them and always doing work for them. He's very passive and always gives into them without argument. They've always been his number one priority, and their demands always cut into our dating time). He also said he was looking forward to his pizza dinner... would you still have an appetite for pizza with a stomach ache?
The next time I asked him over he agreed to come pretty quickly but left after about an hour and half since his parents needed his help again.
He was also less physically affectionate with me but I thought that might've been because my parents were around a lot of the time and he doesn't like to PDA in front of them.
Also, he still texts me constantly; we have conversations all day about our interests and he's always asking me about my life and opinions. He asks how I am and texts good night. But maybe he just feels bad for me since I'm injured? But he's always texted me that much in the four months we've been romantically involved, and our conversations go way beyond my injury.
We're abstinent due to his family's strict religious beliefs.
Am I being too paranoid? I don't want to call him out on it because I don't want to seem clingy. Thanks!
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Oh wow. It seems like your bf needs to find a dictionary and look up the word rebel. It's great that he listens to his parents, but he can't base his relationship with u on their beliefs. They can make their beliefs about sex known, but damn! It's not their descision! It's a decision between you and him. I am not and will not have sex with my bf because of my beliefs, worries, and boundaries. Not because my parents told me not to. I get that his parents are important to him, but he can't put them first all the time. If you always put one person in your life first, your other relationships are going to get damaged. As you can see clearly by you asking this question. You need to talk to him about whether he's going to put you or his parents first. Because sometimes, something happens that's just more important than anything your parents could say. I would move heaven and earth to get to my bf if he was suicidal or do whatever was possible to help him, no matter what my parents said. Cuz damn it, cleaning the kitchen or making my curfew is nowhere near as important than the person I love about to commit suicide! You being injured should be more important to him than doing whatever work his parents tell him to do. You need to have a serious talk with him about that.0